The concern in Chapter 65 is with priors who become "puffed up by the evil spirit of pride and thinking of themselves as second abbots, usurp tyrannical power and foster contention and discord in their communities" (65.2). Priors of this ilk create "envy, quarrels, slander, rivalry, factions and disorders of every kind" (65.7).
I'm sure we've all seen this sort of thing play out in our churches and workplaces. But my interest here is on one of the things Benedict recommends in dealing with such behavior. Specifically, when this sort of behavior is observed Benedict says that the person "is to be warned verbally as many as four times."
As many as four times. That seems to be a lot. Can you imagine sitting down someone at work or church and correcting them verbally "as many as four times"?
I think this repeated correction before taking action shows two different things. First, it builds grace into the system. Second, and this is the point I want to make, this process is relationally demanding. Four hard conversations before anything is done.
And most of us, I think, aren't willing to put in that kind of time or effort.